این ویدیو از پادکست «Jay Shetty Podcast» با حضور دکتر دانیل آمن، به بررسی نحوه پرورش کودکانی مقاوم و قوی از نظر روانی می پردازد؛ بر پایه اصول عصب شناسی و رویکرد «عشق و منطق». در این گفتوگو، بر اهمیت الگو بودن والدین در رفتارهای سالم، ایجاد ارتباط عمیق از طریق صرف زمان کیفی با فرزندان و همچنین اجازه دادن به آنها برای تجربه پیامد های طبیعی رفتارشان تأکید می شود.
همچنین موضوعاتی چون اهمیت تعیین هدف، گوش دادن فعال بهجای حل سریع مشکلات و لزوم تعیین مرزهای مناسب برای پیشگیری از بروز مشکلات روانی در کودکان مورد بررسی قرار میگیرد. در ادامه، چالش های والدین امروزی مانند اعتیاد به فضای مجازی و مسأله طلاق مطرح میشود و راهکارهایی برای تقویت استقلال و خودباوری در کودکان ارائه میگردد.
موضوعات اصلی و ایدههای کلیدی پادکست:
۱. والدین قوی از نظر ذهنی، فرزندانی قوی از نظر ذهنی پرورش میدهند
اساس تربیت کودکانی مقاوم و سالم از نظر روانی، در این است که خود والدین نیز از نظر ذهنی قوی باشند. بهعبارت دیگر، والدین باید همان رفتارهایی را که انتظار دارند در فرزندشان شکل بگیرد، در زندگی خود مدلسازی کنند؛ از جمله شفافیت در اهداف، حضور آگاهانه، و مسئولیتپذیری.
اولین اصل این است که شما باید از نظر ذهنی قوی باشید. باید پیام را در عمل نشان دهید.
۲. The importance of presence and secure attachment
One of the most important factors in preventing mental disorders is creating a secure attachment between parents and children.
Neurological findings show that this type of attachment is the foundation of a child's mental health in the future.
At the same time, attending does not mean solving all the child's problems, because this leads to the formation of the mentality of "entitlement" and the inability to face challenges. 3. Specific Daily Time for Effective Communication
Dr. Amen recommends setting aside 20 minutes a day to do something your child chooses — without giving orders, questions, or directions. This time without judgment and intervention is a kind of "investment in the relationship bank".
4 Giving opportunities for mistakes and experiencing consequences
Parents should not solve all their children's problems. This is the fundamental principle of the "love and logic" approach. 8. Mentally strong children ask questions One of the signs of mental strength in children is that they are not afraid to ask questions. They are not afraid of judgment and keep their curiosity. 9. Brain health, the basis of mental health The child's cognitive and behavioral performance is directly related to his brain health. Important factors such as adequate sleep, healthy nutrition (avoiding additives such as red artificial dye No. 40), and a supportive environment have a great impact on brain function. Dr. Amen introduces four important dimensions for healthy upbringing: Biology: Brain and Body Psychology: How Thinking 10. How to recognize mentally strong children? These children do not believe that every thought is right. They question automatic negative thoughts, avoid blaming others, and ask, “What can I do today to fix this problem?” 11. Parents must also grow Parents must break the cycle of aggression and guilt. Instead of exploding and then regretting, they should deal with the child's behavior in the moment. In the case of divorce, parents should not speak ill of their ex-partner; Because the child sees a part of both parents in him. 12. Technology and social networks The introduction of technology to children should be delayed as much as possible. Premature and indiscriminate use of social networks can lead to the formation of narcissism, reduction of natural motivation and addiction to immediate stimulation. Summary: Parenting with real love True love does not mean solving children's problems or compensating for their shortcomings, but rather equipping them for life. love) Finally, Dr. Amen offers a holistic and balanced approach to raising mentally strong children: Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=avx4Ww9h3Tc&t=619s
Children should be allowed to make mistakes and experience the consequences; Because this issue strengthens the sense of autonomy,
Parental role modeling is very important: if a parent is looking at a mobile phone while eating, you cannot expect the child to behave differently.
Combination for Brain Health: Modeling Desired Behaviors, Setting Clear Boundaries, Fostering Autonomy and Accountability, and Maintaining Deep Emotional Connection through Effective Presence and Active Listening.
