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Perfectionism is a personality trait that, if it is normal, can cause personal and social growth of people, and if it is too normal, it causes perfectionism disorder and causes a person to face many problems in life... Anxiety is anger and dissatisfaction with work and life, it reduces the quality of personal and social life....

***What is perfectionism?. Before we talk about anything, let's see what extreme **perfectionism** is.... This disorder occurs when a person sets unrealistic goals for himself and tries to achieve them.... Since these goals are unattainable, actually trying to achieve this goal is doomed to failure.... Dr. Hossein Bayat says about this disorder: We all want to reach the highest or most perfect degrees of success in our lives. and in a way leads to the creation of a personality disorder in a person and causes these people to never be satisfied with their lives.... Perfectionism is a personality trait that if there is enough of it can lead to a person's progress and success.. The standards grow and they celebrate their successes with pleasure.... Another type of perfectionism is inconsistent.. In this type of disorder, people are not satisfied with what they have and criticize themselves even when they are successful.... **5 main characteristics of perfectionists** Perfectionist people have certain personality traits that can help to control and identify this disorder... Diagnosing morbid **perfectionism** requires an expert opinion and without it, this behavior disorder cannot be definitively diagnosed.... Behaviors such as strictness and extreme criticism, waiting for perfection, needing approval from others and all or nothing thinking, which we will examine below.... By receiving individual counseling and family counseling, you can control perfectionism to a great extent....

These people always have a series of strict rules for themselves and others, and they always criticize themselves and others.. These people do not allow themselves to make mistakes and expect to be the best in everything.... These people set high standards for themselves and even if they succeed, they are not satisfied and happy....

If you also have high expectations for yourself, yes, this is a natural and more wonderful thing.... When this goal is created, they become extremely strict and nervous....

Perfectionist people do not accept anything called failure in any way, and if such a thing happens, they lose themselves and only when they consider themselves worthless....they want perfection....otherwise they will never feel happy....they are always trying to reach that point and from Since reaching that point is unattainable, they always consider themselves worthless and unsalable....

One of the things that these people feel relatively satisfied with is the approval of others.... According to these people, there is either the highest point of success or they are in the worst situation.... In fact, these people cannot evaluate the results of their work properly.... That is why they always They suffer from not reaching their desired perfection...

**Problems of perfectionism As it was said, having the characteristics of perfectionism is not bad if it does not cause problems for the mental health, performance and quality of life of people... But if it is more than usual, it can cause problems in life, so that a person suffering from this disorder wants everything in his life to be perfect and this is impossible... The most important negative effect of extreme perfectionism is the effect on communication and the way a person behaves and negative behaviors in this field. Anxiety. - Increased likelihood of depression - Extreme anger towards others - Constant fear of failure - Occurrence of eating disorders - Decreased life motivation - Increased risk of suicide - Lack of job satisfaction and failure in it - Surrender to problems Perfectionism is one of the indicators affecting physical and mental health.. Living with a perfectionist is very difficult because this person is always dissatisfied with himself and those around him. **Remedies for perfectionism** Definitive treatment of perfectionism can be a challenging process.. but with the use of standard methods and individual effort, this practice is possible.... Perfectionism can cause a decrease in self-esteem, increase stress and anxiety, and cause all kinds of mental disorders; For this reason, the treatment of perfectionism is necessary and necessary.... Some people think that extreme perfectionism can cause human success; While people with this disorder completely lose their motivation with the first problem and failure... the process of treating perfectionism includes three stages of recognizing and accepting perfectionist thoughts, confronting these thoughts and celebrating successes... ### **Are you a perfectionist?** The first and most important step to begin the process of treating perfectionism is to identify your problem. Having big standards and goals does not necessarily indicate perfectionism. You can answer the following questions; If the answer to these questions is positive, then the possibility of severe perfectionism disorder is high in you... 1... Do you have trouble meeting your standards?... 2.. Do you often experience feelings of frustration, depression, anxiety and anger when trying to meet your standards?. 3... Have others told you that you have high standards?.. ### **Setting realistic goals** The most important problem of people suffering from this disorder is having irrational and unattainable goals.... These goals not only do not make the person progress; Rather, because they are irrational, they usually fail.. which makes a person frustrated... Re-examine the goals you have set and if they are not useful and realistic.. change them.... These goals not only do not make you successful.. but also prevent any success by creating fear....

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### **admit failure** Making mistakes and failing is a natural part of growing and learning.. By lowering the unrealistic standards you set for yourself; You increase your motivation and accept your mistakes.... Accepting mistakes leads to personal growth and preparation for future success.... ### **Don't delay** One of the characteristics that people with this disorder are known for; Procrastination is.... This feature exists in these people for this reason; who want things to be done in the best way.. but because this issue is not applicable, it causes stress and reduces motivation in them.... In order to be able to control this feature, you must know that your initial design does not need to be perfect and you can improve it over time.... ### **Meditation and Mindfulness** For the definitive treatment of perfectionism, you can use meditation and mindfulness techniques.. which leads to increased concentration.... Mindfulness is one of the stages of self-awareness.... By increasing concentration, you can avoid excessive thoughts and emotions and make rational decisions.... Meditation reduces your stress and anxiety for the things you want to do and allows you to move forward without judging yourself and your work... ### **Refer to a psychologist** If this disorder is uncontrollable and you cannot control it with the mentioned methods... visiting a psychologist and receiving cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is the best option. By listening to morbid perfectionism podcasts prepared by Dr. Hossein Bayat in Shiraz; You can fully familiarize yourself with this disorder and its characteristics and its treatment... Part of this podcast: **Extreme perfectionism** means having high goals and standards and unrealistic expectations of yourself or others (or both) and a sense of worth based on what they do (success) and not what they are... In a word, these people no longer live and only think about the destination and the destination and do not enjoy the journey.. These people do not feel failure, but they feel bankruptcy, the foundation of which is damage to self-esteem, and there is a feeling of failure and shame.