**poisonous parents** By Susan Ford Translated by Ruqiya Karimi Publisher: Atisa 240 pages The relationship between children and parents is a special and unrepeatable relationship... children, due to their love and dependence on parents, often believe that their parents are completely flawless and an example of a perfect human being... Therefore, they can never judge them... In healthy and aware families, parents can manage various crises well, including the efforts of teenagers to achieve independent personality. It needs independence to grow, so when their child says "no" they reprimand him in different ways.... In some cultures they may even punish the little child which is a big mistake... denial) is used to get them used to it, it becomes a weakness in their character as an adult.... However, anyone can make up for their health flaws in adulthood.. Toxic parents.... In this article we will examine the characteristics of some toxic parents.... Incompetent parents In addition to the need for food, clothing and shelter, children also have emotional and psychological needs (such as the need for self-esteem), but ignorant parents do not pay attention to the psychological needs of their children.. These parents indirectly tell their children that they are not important, because of this, these children suffer from mental deficiencies and feel that they are unworthy in society, even as adults who leave other children or do not separate responsibility from each other.. Don't accept that these are parents. domineering Dominant parents always try to guide their children's decisions, behavior and life... To interfere in these decisions, they excuse the child's young age or lack of experience and add the sentence "It is in your best interest to listen to me".. Using insulting words and inappropriate adjectives to children and inappropriate criticism breaks their character and instills false messages about their identity that will never be erased by children's rude behavior... Words even when they are angry.... Punitive parents Unfortunately, there are still parents who see corporal punishment as a way to raise their children.... Children who have experienced childhood trauma have a deep anger towards their parents that they should evacuate them as soon as possible, but such a possibility is not available to them.... Most of these children follow their parents' example in adulthood and will continue to do the same to their families and children in the future.... Abusive parents The last degree of betrayal and ugliness is the sexual abuse of a child, which is a heinous act in all cultures.... This causes the destruction of the strongest foundation in the parent-child relationship, which is trust, and causes such damage to the child's feelings that it is irreparable.... Those who have the painful experience of sexual assault suffer from other inadequacy and despair, and the other reason they think is human despair.... They carry a heavy secret on their shoulders... What should be done to heal the wounds of toxic parent behavior?.. The first step for injured people is to know that there are bags full of poison in them that need to be emptied as soon as possible. is.. Besides, no one should think that he can't do it.. He expected you to deny what you said, he puts the blame on yourself. if needed You can also get help from your trusted psychologist with professional help to fix the damage.... Taken from the book Toxic Parents by Suzanne Ford, translated by Roghieh Karimi Publisher: Atisa