Empty nest syndrome is one of the most common psychological problems in parents who deal with the sadness of their children's absence... Undoubtedly, being a parent can be one of our heavy and big responsibilities in life.. because we face new challenges every day and these challenges can continue even when the children grow up and leave the home. don't There is even a possibility of mental disorders in the parents... **What is the empty nest syndrome?** As mentioned, empty nest syndrome is a severe mental illness that parents experience when their children leave home.. The feeling of sadness, sadness and loneliness after the separation of children, although it is not a clinical diagnosis.. but it happens to most parents.... Empty nest syndrome causes a sense of purposelessness and creates an identity crisis in these people; Of course, this feeling can be normal to some extent and can be caused by a change in the lifestyle and responsibilities of the parents.. But if this sadness and discomfort continues and disrupts people's daily lives, it can become a big challenge in people's mental health... But they cannot help but worry about their children... This worry causes feelings of sadness, stress and anxiety, feelings of loss, irritability and fear in parents... Empty nest syndrome happens in parents; But some researches have shown that this syndrome affects most mothers.. This issue can happen due to genetics, hormones and the closeness of mothers with their children... **The most important symptoms of empty nest syndrome** The signs and symptoms of empty nest syndrome are similar to a person who has faced a big change in their life or even lost someone.... These symptoms can be different in each person according to their circumstances and their severity is also different... The symptoms that we will get to know later occur in both parents and identifying them can help treat empty nest syndrome.... ### **miss the target** Losing the goal can be considered the most important symptom of the empty nest syndrome.. which shows its symptoms earlier than others.... parents whose purpose in life was only the growth and upbringing of their children; When children leave home because they don't have a clear goal, they quickly lose the meaning and concept of their lives... But over time, parents who suffer from this problem must find new goals for their lives... ### **Depression** Another symptom that parents experience after their children leave home.. Having depression is a deep sense of sadness that involves parents and can even cause arguments and tension between couples.. All these problems can seem reasonable at first.. But if left untreated over time, they can cause bigger problems.... ### **Fear of lack of control** Parents have had full or partial control over their child's life for a long time.. and when the children leave home, this control is greatly reduced and even reaches zero.... This can cause parents to be very afraid of their child's living conditions... It can be a big problem.... Sometimes this fear causes disruption in the relationship between parents and children.... In such a situation, parents should trust their child and his ability... and instead of controlling their child, look for a correct and standard way to deal with their fear.... and to treat their stress and anxiety, refer to a counselor.... ### **creating marital problems** If you are one of those parents who have sacrificed your relationship for the growth and education of your child; After your children leave home, you will face major and important problems... The creation of empty nest syndrome also increases marital problems and can put couples at risk of divorce and separation... Undoubtedly, when children leave home, it is the best time to increase your relationship with your spouse and turn your relationship into the first days of acquaintance... When you are suffering from empty nest syndrome, be sure to remember this issue; That you are not the only parent who has this problem and you can try to reduce unpleasant and uncomfortable feelings.... There are many ways to heal and deal with empty nest syndrome. which requires the effort of you and your partner to recover.... The goal of treatment is to reduce the feeling of sadness and discomfort and find new goals for the life ahead... Reduce but pay attention to the fact that it is better not to communicate too much because it may be a problem for your child.... Contact with children is also useful for them and gives them this feeling.. Those who are not alone and can count on your help.... - **Pay attention to your growth:** Follow your new and favorite hobbies and try to Focus on your growth.... This will help you find another important goal and prevent depression.... - **Improving marital relations:** During this time, paying attention to the marital relationship and communication with your spouse can help to treat the syndrome and the feeling of emptiness.. discomfort... destroy.... - **Having a pet:** A pet can help you get rid of loneliness and you can share your free time with a new friend.... a A pet can cure your depression, anxiety and loneliness... **summary** Although empty nest syndrome is a common syndrome among parents, it can be solved with enough attention and effort. Undoubtedly, all parents are looking for the growth and development of their children, and this growth is possible when they become independent; For this reason, dealing with the feeling of uneasiness and discomfort after children leave will make them grow.... With the mentioned coping methods, you can improve the empty nest syndrome, but in case of failure in this way or if you need more help, you can refer to a counselor.... At the Bayat Psychology Center, various counseling sessions are held to treat people's mental and psychological problems.. **1\_ What is the empty nest syndrome?** Empty nest syndrome is a common mental illness in parents who struggle with the sadness of their children's absence.. The feeling of sadness, grief and loneliness after children's separation, although it is not a clinical diagnosis, but it happens in most parents... **2\_ Does empty nest syndrome occur more in fathers or mothers?** Empty nest syndrome occurs in both fathers and mothers, but some research has shown that this syndrome affects mothers more.. This issue can happen due to genetics, hormones and the closeness of mothers with their children... **3\_ What are the symptoms of empty nest syndrome?** Loss of purpose, depression, fear of lack of control and creating marital problems are some of the empty nest symptoms that occur in both parents...