In today's modern world, the formation of emotional relationships and common life has undergone many changes. One of the phenomena that has become controversial and raised many questions in recent years, especially among the young generation, is white marriage. Maybe you have heard this word or even witnessed it in your surroundings. But do we really know what white marriage is and what consequences it has in the hidden layers of people's lives?
many people tend to white marriage with the idea of escaping from the heavy responsibilities of official marriage or to test the relationship. But the reality is that this type of relationship is like walking on a razor's edge. In this article, we examine the nature of white marriage, not to judge, but to deeply inform, the reasons for its tendency, and most importantly, the shocking dangers that are often overlooked. If you are at a crossroads or simply want to have a better understanding of this social phenomenon, join us.
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What is white marriage?
In simple words, White Marriage (White Marriage) refers to a style of cohabitation in which a man and a woman live under the same roof without an official, legal and religious registration of their union. The word "white" here refers to the blank page of the birth certificate and the lack of registration of the parties in each other's identity documents. In fact, white marriage is a type of cohabitation in which couples live as husband and wife, but there is no written legal or religious commitment between them.
In white marriage, the parties may have written agreements, but these agreements are not binding in any court or legal entity. This type of relationship is often formed with the aim of getting to know each other better before permanent marriage or due to economic problems and avoiding the costs of forming an official life. But is this apparent freedom in white marriage, worth its hidden costs?
Why do couples go for white marriage?
Understanding the roots of the tendency towards white marriage is necessary to properly analyze it. Several factors are involved in this decision:
- Fear of divorce and failure: With the increase in divorce statistics, many young people consider white marriage as a way to prevent official divorce and its social consequences.
- Economic problems: The skyrocketing costs of weddings, housing, and dowries push some to white marriage which is apparently less expensive.
- Testing the relationship: Some couples believe that only by living under the same roof they can reach true understanding and consider white marriage as a trial period.
- Avoidance of responsibility: In white marriage, traditional frameworks of spousal duties are less and people feel more independent.
However, psychologists believe that many of these reasons are a kind of defense mechanism to avoid true intimacy and long-term commitment.
3 legal and emotional risk in white marriage
Maybe at first glance, white marriage looks modern and attractive, but the lack of support frameworks carries serious risks that can destroy people's future.
1. Absolute legal vacuum and lack of legal protection
One of the biggest shocks people experience at the end of white marriage is complete legal homelessness. In this type of relationship:
- No rights and entitlements such as alimony, dowry or inheritance are defined.
- If one party dies in a white marriage, the other party will not have any share of his property, even if they have lived together for many years.
- If a child is born, issues related to custody and obtaining a birth certificate face very complex challenges and sometimes legal dead ends. Children from white marriages are often the main victims.
2. Emotional insecurity
Contrary to popular belief, white marriage does not always end in permanent marriage. Research shows that the level of commitment in white marriage is lower than in formal marriage. This issue creates a kind of chronic insecurity. One of the parties (usually women) may constantly worry that their partner will leave them at any moment. This constant anxiety destroys intimacy and erodes the relationship. In white marriage, because there is no legal cost to leave the relationship, people's tolerance threshold is lowered and with the slightest problem, the option of separation is on the table.3. Social rejection and hidden psychological pressure
In a society with a cultural and religious context like Iran, white marriage is still considered taboo. Couples usually have to hide their relationship from family, neighbors and colleagues. This continuous concealment creates heavy psychological pressure in the white marriage. Fear of judgment, family rejection, and loss of social support can lead to isolation and depression. Double life in white marriage, takes a lot of mental energy from the couple and robs them of peace.
Comparison of white marriage and official marriage
To better understand the fundamental differences, the following table provides a comparison between these two lifestyles:
| attribute | official marriage | white marriage |
|---|---|---|
| Legal commitment | There is (dowry, alimony, inheritance) | None (legal asylum) |
| Social acceptance | full support of family and society | rejection and concealment |
| Psychological security | top (sense of stability) | bottom (persistent separation anxiety) |
| Children status | has identity and legal rights | Challenge in identity and rights |
| Relationship quality | Trying to resolve conflicts | Tendency to leave a relationship in crisis |
What is the solution?
If you are thinking of starting a white marriage or are currently in such a relationship and feel confused, the best solution is to stop and reconsider. Talking to a professional counselor can help you discover your true motivations. Are you afraid of commitment? Are economic problems hindering you?
premarital counseling can be a healthy alternative to testing the relationship through white marriage. In specialized counseling sessions, couples can check their compatibility and understanding in a scientific and accurate way without accepting the destructive risks of white marriage.
Last word
White marriage It may seem like an answer to some modern needs, but its hidden costs far outweigh its short-term benefits. Insecurity, legal helplessness and social pressure are the bitter realities hidden behind the fashionable name of white marriage. It is your right to choose your life path, but it is a valuable choice based on awareness, security and foresight. Prioritize the protection of your soul and future.
FAQ
1. Does white marriage lead to permanent marriage?
Statistics show that the conversion rate of white marriage to permanent marriage is lower than expected. Even in the case of marriage, the divorce rate is higher in couples who previously had a white marriage in some studies, because they have developed a habit of leaving the relationship when problems arise.
2. What is the fate of children from white marriages?
These children face serious identity and legal challenges. Birth certificates are often difficult to obtain, and they are denied the legal protections that children of divorce or formal marriage have. The mental pressure caused by hiding the parents' condition also weighs heavily on the shoulders of these children.
3. How can I ask my partner to make a white wedding official?
This conversation requires honesty and transparency. You should talk about emotional needs, safety and the future of the relationship. If the other party continues to refuse to make a formal commitment, it may be a sign of a difference in life goals. Getting the help of a counselor is critical to managing this conversation about ending white marriage or making it official.
