Rebuilding self-esteem after a toxic relationship

Rebuilding self-esteem after a toxic relationship

What does toxic relationship mean? Why should we take it seriously?

Human relationships play an important role in our quality of life. The purpose of being in a relationship is to experience love, a sense of security, and personal growth. However, a toxic relationship can cause serious psychological damage to us and upset our mental balance.

Knowing better the characteristics of a toxic and destructive relationship and learning ways to deal with it will be an effective step in building healthier and peaceful relationships. In this article, we will take a look at the characteristics of a toxic relationship and examine the ways to restore such relationships.

What does toxic relationship mean?

These days, the word "toxic" has become so common that it is attributed to everything; From behavior and speech to type and even type of relationships! But what exactly do we mean when we talk about a toxic relationship?

A relationship in which there is no mention of mutual respect, repeated and exhausting discussions fill its space, mutual understanding is not formed, empathy is lost and the presence of the other party brings stress and annoyance instead of peace, without a doubt, it is among unhealthy relationships. Such a relationship not only does not have a clear perspective, but if fundamental changes are not made in the way of communication, thinking and outlook of both parties, it can wear them both out psychologically.

If you feel that part of these conditions can be seen in your relationship, it is time to improve your communication and emotional skills. Learning emotional intelligence techniques and effective communication can change the course of your life.

Signs and characteristics of a toxic relationship

The signs of a toxic relationship are not always easy to recognize; Sometimes, instead of obvious blows, we are faced with the gradual erosion of the psyche and emotions. A relationship in which the balance is lost and the sense of security and value is reduced can have signs such as the following:

* You are always giving but receiving the least and you feel tired or unimportant.

* Your needs are ignored and there is no sense of mutual respect in the relationship.

* With the passage of time, your self-confidence decreases and your sense of worth is damaged.

* You constantly feel misunderstood, unsupported or belittled and blamed.

* After spending time or talking with the other party, you feel worse; You feel tired, sad or angry.

* The other party doesn't see you as you are or even gossips behind your back and shows your real value lower than it actually is.

* You spend a lot of mental energy trying to cheer him up, without getting anything in return.

* makes you unfairly responsible for all problems and does not accept responsibility when errors occur.

These signs are warning signs that should not be ignored.

Why do we stay in a toxic relationship?

Many times we know that we are stuck in an unhealthy relationship, but we still prefer to stay than to leave. Contrary to what others think, this stay is not a sign of weakness or interest in suffering; Rather, it is often caused by complex and intertwined factors. One of the strongest reasons is "hope", the hope that is revived from time to time by a positive behavior, a promise or a temporary change in the other party.

Sometimes we ignore the warning signs at the beginning of the relationship and now that we are more deeply involved, we expect the situation to improve or the other person's personality to change, but what makes us stay in such a relationship despite all the damage?

Reasons for staying in a toxic relationship can include the following:

* Fear of being alone or rejected

* spending a lot of time, energy and emotion on this relationship

* Hope to change the negative behavior of the emotional partner

* Cultural pressures or the traditional view of society

* Financial dependence on the other party

* Lack of emotional support from family and friends

* Revival of old attachment wounds from childhood

* Decreased self-esteem and feeling unable to leave the relationship

* Torment of conscience or feeling of excessive responsibility

* Irrational optimism towards the future of the relationship

* Psychological manipulations and mental confusion by the other party

* addiction to crisis resolution and repeating the cycle of tension and reconciliation

* Strong sexual attraction or physical attraction

* Experiencing extreme emotional fluctuations that have become a kind of addiction

* Looking at the toxic relationship as a challenge or mission

* Feeling insecure or afraid of getting hurt after a breakup

* Having a common child and worrying about him

Understanding these reasons is the first step to reconsider our decision to stay or leave such a relationship.

How to get out of a toxic relationship?

Ending a toxic relationship is not easy, but sometimes the only way to return to inner peace is to break up. If, despite all your efforts, there is no change in the situation and you are still in a bad mood, it is time to stop trying one-way and take action to save yourself.

The first step is to find someone you trust, such as a family member or close friend, to talk to. The emotional support of the people around you can increase your decision-making power.

Whether you decide to leave the relationship or want to repair it, in any case, you should prioritize your mental health. Self-love is the foundation of any healthy relationship. When you learn to value yourself, you can build relationships that empower you instead of draining you.

Practicing self-love can include small actions; From walking in nature and meeting the ones you love to trying a favorite food or a new hobby. Coping with a toxic relationship can leave you emotionally drained. Therefore, instead of staying in the cycle of anger, annoyance and fear, try to fill their place with positive emotions. If a relationship has only a negative charge and is driving you further away from yourself day by day, leaving it is not a sign of weakness, but a smart choice. Always remember: "Being alone is better than being trapped in a relationship that makes you feel bad."

Last word

Ending a toxic relationship may be one of the most difficult decisions in life, but sometimes this decision is the beginning of liberation and return to peace. Staying in a stressful relationship, where the sense of security, happiness and love is gone, can be nothing but emotional exhaustion, but the good news is: you deserve a healthy and peaceful life.

The real courage is to get out of the cycle that made you feel bad and value yourself. Leaving an unhealthy relationship is not a sign of failure, but a big step towards growth, self-knowledge and happiness.

Don't forget that no relationship is worth sacrificing your inner peace. If you need support on this path, our specialized team at the Pizarh Counseling Center is with you to build the life you deserve with awareness and peace.

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