Necessary preparations for marriage One of the necessary preparations for marriage that couples think about is financial preparation, but they do not pay attention to the most important thing, which is psychological preparation... In fact, people who are close to the **marriage time** should check whether they are ready to accept the heavy responsibilities of marriage and cohabitation... In order to evaluate such cases, you must first fully define your criteria for choosing a spouse, because without knowing them, you may make a wrong decision and as a result make a difficult life for yourself.

Preparation for marriage: knowing before marriage ### Necessary prerequisites to achieve recognition before marriage One of the most important stages of marriage and preparation for marriage is **achieving self-awareness** and passing the **self-knowledge** stages. Before any choice, a person must **fully know his strengths and weaknesses**, determine his life goals and values** and make a worthy choice by identifying the criteria for a successful choice. Psychologists believe that it is possible to select and select a person who **passed the five stages of maturity (physical, intellectual, social, moral and psychological growth)**. Of course, we cannot ignore the fact that **no person is perfect** and we should choose a person who is as close as possible to our ideals and does not exist 100%. Source: Shoaibi, Fatemeh, Successful marriage, first edition, Arshad book The most important factors of preparation for marriage ### **Initial desire for marriage:** As a first step, you should ask yourself this question: 1.... **Are you currently willing** to enter into a life together that is completely different from single life? 2.... Can you commit to this or not? ### Compatibility: All people on the planet are different from each other and no two people can be the same, life is always full of ups and downs that require patience and adaptation. So if you think that you do not have the ability to adapt to different personality traits, you should first consult an expert in this field and then finalize your decision to get married... Marriage counseling can help you in this matter by applying specialized approaches. ### Acceptance commitment: Marriage means starting a commitment to one person for the rest of his life, a person who intends to marry must be sure of the courage to make such a commitment. ### Economic stability: Having a good financial situation is one of the requirements of marriage, and you must be absolutely sure of this to start a life together. Signs of readiness for marriage - You think beyond issues such as wedding celebrations and wedding shopping and issues like this. - You forget about constant communication with different people. - You are ready to forgive. - You have the ability to meet the other person's emotional needs. - You have the ability to plan. - freedom from perfectionism - You can manage your family and friends relationships. - You have the power to decide. - You have reached the right age for marriage. The most important factors of agreement in marriage ### Emotional and intellectual growth: Emotional and intellectual growth is not a factor related to age, but psychological, social and emotional age and physical age are all effective factors in intellectual growth. ### Social development: **Social development** is closely related to intellectual development and they are almost the same.... A socially well-developed person knows well how to communicate with other people, how to deal with any situation and... ### Similarity in the type of thinking: The most important issue that should be paid attention to before marriage is the agreement on the important issues of life, because the foundations of joint life are formed based on this issue... In the dating stages for marriage, classify all your wishes and share them with your future spouse based on priority. Meanwhile, your prioritized demands form several columns: - **First column:** In this column, write all the characteristics that your future wife should have. - **Second column:** Write here all the qualities that your future wife should not have. - **Third column:** Write the features you prefer to have in this column. Finally, on this basis and based on the generalities that are evident, you start a relationship based on knowing and evaluating the person in question, and after interacting with him for a while, you will find out to what extent your expectations column has been completed, and as a result, is he your choice as your future spouse or not? Is love enough for marriage? The answer to this question is simple and at the same time complicated.... Two people who feel true love for each other, consider each other **their ideal**.... But in **challenges and hardships of life **just being in love doesn't work**... Coordination in joint life can be learned to a great extent by learning communication skills to increase the percentage of marriage success.... In our common life, in addition to receiving the feeling of love and being loved, we need compatibility and understanding so that we can easily overcome the difficulties of life... Increasing knowledge about topics such as how to communicate, family, marriage, etc. helps us make better choices. Premarital counseling Many people may think that getting counseling and using psychological services is only limited to when we have a problem and we can get help from a counselor to solve that problem... Research has shown that more than 80% of people who participated in premarital counseling sessions can easily resolve marital disputes and reach an agreement. give.. and should not take the marriage confirmation of the couple.... And awareness is formed after many meetings and decisions, the process starts after that...

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