Controlling anger in children is one of the important topics that parents should pay much attention to. Anger is one of the natural emotions that are expressed in all human beings, but what is important is the control of anger, especially in children. Anger in children causes physical damage in addition to mental damage to the child, so it is better to teach children how to control anger in their childhood. **What is the cause of anger in children?** Anger and aggression are one of the natural aggressive behaviors and emotions in children. For example, when children fight over their toys and scream to the point of bruising. A young child can lash out at a playmate while doing things like making crafts. Even when the child goes to the kindergarten, due to his annoyance and discomfort and feeling neglected by his family due to being away from home, he may take revenge by pushing his hand. Factors such as studying, hunger and thirst, fatigue, differences between parents or parents' divorce, children's jealousy, etc. are among the factors that affect a child's anger. It is better to talk to the child to control his anger and solve his problems. **What should be done against children's anger?** You can take different measures against children's anger, which we will examine below. ### **Be a good role model** No matter how angry or angry you are, try to keep your anger in front of your child and do not blame him. Doing these things not only does not have a positive effect on the child's behavior, but also makes him learn to express his anger and turn to physical and verbal conflict. Instead of this behavior, control your anger and be a good example for him. ### **Reply faster** Try to respond quickly when you notice that your child is being aggressive and stop his temper tantrum, don't let it get to the point where you tell your child it's enough the third time he starts hitting. Let him know immediately that he is doing something wrong. ### **Get him out of this situation** Try to take him out of the situation for a short break. If the child is in preschool, 3 to 4 minutes is enough for the break. If the child is older, reprimand him for his misdeeds, for example, reduce the time he watches TV and his allowance, so that he knows the consequences of his wrongdoing and does not do it again. ### Stick to your chosen reaction When the child misbehaves, give the same reaction to this behavior. That is, give a type of reaction each time so that the child remembers what you will do and the queen of his mind will not do this again so that he does not go along with your expected behavior. ### **Talk to your child** Let your child calm down and then talk to him about what happened. The best time is between 30 minutes and 1 hour after this happens. Then ask him questions related to that topic. For example, (What behavior from your hand made you angry?) ### **Give appropriate ways to control anger** Explain to him that it is normal to get angry and anyone can be angry and tell the child that hitting and kicking is not right and it is wrong. Then suggest better ways. And tell him to talk to the person who is angry with him and express his problem by talking instead of shooting the ball, throwing objects and physical and verbal conflicts. ### **Check his parenting break** When the child is angry and aggressive, teach him to sit next to you and be silent. At this time, let him calm down completely and if you feel that he has calmed down a bit, hug him and teach him to express all his feelings in the best possible way. ### **Encourage his good behavior and be proud of him** Apart from when you react to his bad behavior, do the same for his good behavior and praise the child's good deeds. Also, when he succeeds in self-control and anger control, give him a reward and show that you are proud of him. Read more: The best ways to control anger ### **Solutions to control children's anger** In this section, we discuss the strategies to control children's anger: - Take the child away from the conflict - When children are angry, distract them so that the conflict does not continue. - Give up a little. Because too much pressure on him and yourself causes physical problems. Would you rather your child watch 15 more minutes of TV or yell at him for 30 minutes? - Sometimes use humor and draw funny emoticons to entertain the child. - Use words softly instead of shouting. - Keep tempting options away from him. For example, chocolate should not be on the table during dinner.